Some words from one of our trainees as he reflects on his experience...

Jayanta Chakraborti lives in Kolkata, India… His words moved me so deeply, that I asked permission to share them with you. 

This is the exact shift that has me leap out of bed each morning to activate my intention of training 1000 Jai Parenting coaches over the next two years… 

To change the collective consciousness from the perspective that children need to be “domesticated” (aka fixed… taught to behave… to obey) to a new consciousness of parents doing the work to demonstrate leadership and guidance for their children… which is ultimately the path to more peace, compassion and connection in the world. 

I hope you find these words inspiring. And that perhaps they awaken, in you, the desire to do this work (whether it’s here or somewhere else) to make this shift for yourself, and perhaps to become a guide for others to do the same. 

Enjoy….

in Jayanta's words...

“I sit down today to write my experiences and personal journey in the first 8-9 weeks of parental coaching in Jai parenting.

I must confess that I was simply awed by the syllabus and despite having constraints I intuitively decided to take the plunge, and providence was right again.

The journey for me was transformational. While I suspected the concept of "fix your children" as a parent, I tended to move towards the very same thing. It was either my way or highway with my children.

It was also getting uncomfortably clear that I was projecting my own un-resourcefulness to my children. Despite having the intention of not treating my children the way I was treated, I was slowly moving toward the intention of creating my own copies with the same behavioral traits of mine.

The self-exploration journey was critical for me as it allowed me to make peace with my past, and forgive the people I believed, who had wronged me. It created a sense of curiosity to understand the very nature of the emotions which was trying to tell me about my core unmet needs.

It is a journey and I am still not clear about the destination. But this journey feels very empowering as it is engulfed with an emotion of love without any expectations. This love is expandable and the more it is expanded, the less depressed or anxious I become.

So the crux of any relationship or parenting is CONNECTION. 

This is an extremely powerful word for me, right now. Am I able to connect with myself? What needs to happen? Do I have a complete sense of self-awareness? How do I connect to others? This is through forgiveness, gratitude, and being non-judgemental. Yes, they are the keys? Is there more to it?

I leave the blog with this thought to myself. How much capacity do I have?”

- Jayanta Chakraborti, Jai Certified Parenting Coach In-Training